How to Make Your Marriage a Team
The Marriage You Want Chapters 1 & 2 on Balance
In our wedding vows, my husband and I promised to make our marriage a team and be each other’s teammates. By starting our marriage out as an equal partnership and centering it on a team mentality, we’ve been able to avoid the pitfalls of me vs. you. We even came up with a name that combined both of our last name’s into a team family name!
Today’s Substack centers on how to make your marriage a team, with unity in your decision-making and harmony in your problem-solving.
If you missed last week’s post, we introduced our spring book club on The Marriage You Want: Moving beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health by Sheila Wray Gregoire and Dr. Keith Gregoire.
Today we’ll cover Chapters 1 and 2 on Balance: The Unity You Want and The Teamwork You Want. Read on for today’s content:
A summary of Chapters 1 & 2
Research on conflict resolution from marriage therapist and researcher John Gottman
A Middle Path Practice for solving disagreements, drawn from Gottman Marriage Therapy
Questions for personal reflection and our discussion
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Summary of Chapters 1 & 2
“Imagine having a marriage in which instead of asking, ‘What can my spouse give me?’ you ask, ‘How can we create the best team ever?’"
—The Marriage You Want