This is such an effective explanation, Camden, with your honest examples and a practice for exploring. I don’t think I’d heard of this concept, at least not how I heard you explain it, and I’m so grateful for it! It’s a very freeing practice.
Knowledge, skills, or experiences, you didn't get as a child... We hired a housecleaner. At first it was short-term because I'd broken my ankle, but we've decided to keep them on, and they were amenable to it.
With the giant caveat that I know my family's in a fortunate place to be able to afford a cleaning service; we haven't always been able to. And I will still be teaching my children basic life skills like cleaning bathrooms, etc. as they get older.
But my grandparents' generation grew up in poverty, on both sides. A necessity born of poverty (knowing how to do all the things and doing all the things yourself) became a source of pride. Rightfully so, given the circumstances. But my circumstances have changed, now. And lightening the burden in that area of life has enabled me to show up better in other areas.
That's a great example, Sarah! I hear how you're not being prescriptive, but describing how this has been an experience that has benefitted you that wasn't "allowed" (or accessible) in your house growing up.
This is such an effective explanation, Camden, with your honest examples and a practice for exploring. I don’t think I’d heard of this concept, at least not how I heard you explain it, and I’m so grateful for it! It’s a very freeing practice.
Thank you, Jenn! What was different about what I said from what you had heard before?
I can’t remember - I just think I never heard it explained fully!
Knowledge, skills, or experiences, you didn't get as a child... We hired a housecleaner. At first it was short-term because I'd broken my ankle, but we've decided to keep them on, and they were amenable to it.
With the giant caveat that I know my family's in a fortunate place to be able to afford a cleaning service; we haven't always been able to. And I will still be teaching my children basic life skills like cleaning bathrooms, etc. as they get older.
But my grandparents' generation grew up in poverty, on both sides. A necessity born of poverty (knowing how to do all the things and doing all the things yourself) became a source of pride. Rightfully so, given the circumstances. But my circumstances have changed, now. And lightening the burden in that area of life has enabled me to show up better in other areas.
That's a great example, Sarah! I hear how you're not being prescriptive, but describing how this has been an experience that has benefitted you that wasn't "allowed" (or accessible) in your house growing up.
Excellent suggestions!
Thank you, Susan!